Self-seeking is a common problem. The solution involves humbling ourselves to God.
1 Peter 5:5 Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.”
We must seek God with honest and sincere humility.
Growing with God involves setting our hearts and minds to be with God. God is Spirit and love, so we will need to become ready to give ourselves over to inwardly participate with love and all that is spiritual. This may require a new perspective.
Godly solutions always involve God's spirit and love. Each of us will need to guide our hearts and minds progressively into that love and respond with it. This is the spiritual solution that can help us.
Someone might think, "But how! How can we do that?"
The answer is simple, but responding in it is a struggle. It is a struggle because we choose to live differently. There are many reasons for this.
We will need to choose differently with God which may involve inward conflict. We will need to progress toward what Jesus teaches in the Bible. In Matthew chapters 5-7 Jesus teaches many things we CAN begin to practice.
We may experience worry, pride, fear, and other forms of discomfort convincing us away from spiritual Good. Many of us may follow a way of life outside of God's Good and choose to continue in it. Self-denial, self-discipline, and giving ourselves over to God's Goodness will be necessary. This can be a difficult fact to accept. We can chose to trust and rely upon God, because God is the solution.
It is so easy to get distracted and focus upon problems. We can focus our thoughts on problems to learn spiritual solutions. The solution will often involve a reshaping of our perspective. Our faith can be off. Our belief and reliance upon God can fall away. The solution can involve some rebuilding of our faith and understanding.
Love and peace are solutions. With every spiritual conflict we can look for spiritual solutions. If our problem is anger, we can think forgiveness and how it is Good. If our problem is fear, we pray for help to increase our faith.
At first, this idea might seem silly. We may have disbelief. It can be unfamiliar and awkward. If we progress in it with a willingness to learn we can develop an understanding of how it is good.
On every path toward spiritual solutions we will experience choice. There will be a path we know and one that's unfamiliar. Choosing a new path may be a struggle. We can choose it.
But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
Within our minds are thousands of thought messages each day. Most of them are beyond our awareness. This means we are following trained responses not even knowing why we are doing them. We CAN improve our awareness through the practice of reflective meditation and self-examination.
As we gradually improve our thought awareness we can discover thoughts we may not want. We can learn to replace them. This will require the development of inward discernment and creating new thought messages. If our thoughts are sabotaging us and leading us away from God, we can identify those thoughts and pray for help. (See Good Daily Practices)
An investigator will slowly examine details. They will collect information and try to put pieces together. As we read scripture we can look up meanings of words to better understand the message.
For example, the word hypocrisy is defined by wikipedia as"Hypocrisy is the practice of engaging in the same behavior or activity for which one criticizes another or the practice of claiming to have moral standards or beliefs to which one's own behavior does not conform. "
I once listened to a sermon from a pastor sharing about the Biblical word hypocrite using the common understanding as wikipedia describes. However, recently I investigated the Greek word for hypocrite and found it meant an actor or pretender. It someone who is insincere. https://biblehub.com/greek/5272.htm
Finding truth requires investigation. Where scripture provides instructions for us we ought to increase our focus upon what it is saying and define more clearly what it means.
If it is a word in the old testament we can do a search using the word we want to know more about then "Hebrew" and "define." For the New Testament use "Greek" instead of Hebrew. Try it out with words like "Fear" and "Worship." Read a few different definitions and find the patterns.
One saying in 12 step programs is "progress, not perfection." We are not going to be perfect, because if we were perfect, we would be God. Just do a Biblical concordance study on the word "perfect." It can help with understanding.
God gives us power over choice. Some of us will choose evil. Because people choose evil, there will be evil in the world. Wars, exploitation, oppression, and many harmful events will come to pass. People will die from such choices. What will we choose to do with our hearts and minds?
We can choose to focus upon wrongs in the world or seek to build the kingdom of God. It's our own choice of how we respond where we can have some control. We are given power over choice.
What we do today will affect our own tomorrow. If we choose to invest our hearts and minds toward pondering evil we can miss our opportunity of participating in God's good.
If we can add a bit of God's good each day into our hearts and minds we can make a significant spiritual difference in the world. Test it. Do it for 30 days and see what happens.
There is a spiritual battle at hand. The only battle that matters is right now. What will we choose? We can choose to seek, trust, and do God's will.